Chocolate-y Valentine’s

Its February 14th and here is a short recipe of what I made for me and my constant love; Mom 😊

Ingredients

  • Milk
  • Oreo Biscuits
  • Vanilla Ice-cream
  • Chocolate Syrup or Drinking Chocolate

Method

  1. Take the chocolate syrup and drip a little in design within the glass frame. Incase syrup is not available, take a small amount of warm water and add as much drinking chocolate till thick as desired
  2. Pour 500 ml of milk into a blender.
  3. Add 3-4 large scoops of vanilla ice cream into the milk.
  4. Take 10-12 Oreo biscuits and add into the blender. Do not split into halves as they will be chopped when blending.
  5. Blend.
  6. Pour mixture into the glass carefully not to touch the chocolate poured earlier
  7. Serve

Lots of Love❤,

The One Child

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What the Sweat!!

As if my day couldn’t get any sadder, here I am looking at my last supper; a name I have chosen to give the fries I am eating at the moment. The last supper because I will not be having these or any other fries in a very long while. You know the way some people say “That was the last time. Sikunywi pombe tena (I am not drinking alcohol again)”? That is the strong covalent bond I have with fries and my mwitu guy but even strong covalent bonds can scientifically be broken and so we have reached that line where I have to cross and leave my loves behind. Jesus I am almost in tears as I write this.

Back to that part where I was talking about my day being sad. Today I was up sometime around 4ish and I was browsing through looking for inspiration for my next article then I remembered that one of the things I really wanted to get back to as well is being physically fit which would include me burning lots of fat especially around my abdominal area. Now now before someone here gets the wrong impression, I am not against being fat, which I am at the moment, or thick ( this might just go south cause I used word fat) but it just something that doesn’t work for me. Not because almost everyone around me comments on how huge I have become over the past month or two which I totally do not approve of, but because I don’t feel comfortable in my own skin especially when I know I could fit into a particular dress but I cant anymore cause of the weight gain. That and many other factors haha which shall not be discussed cause my mother is probably going to be one of the first to read this article. Hi mom!!

Oh yeah so I was saying; I decided to put on an EDM playlist and went on to do 3 sets of 10 crunches each, 3 sets of planks each 10 seconds and 20 sit ups. I could feel the burn on my lower backside but I remembered no pain no gain. What I saw next broke my heart into the tiniest pieces it has ever been in. I picked up my phone and there was my first notification of the day. It was mail from WebMD Crunches Won’t Burn Belly Fat. These Tips Will. I sat there and stared at that mail for close to a minute thinking “WTH!!1 I just did 30 crunches for nothing??? I specifically held my head in an angle to achieve a perfect crunch… FOR NOTHING???” I wasn’t having it. So there goes my first disappointment of the day. I decided to open the link. Maybe in it there would be something about sit ups or planks being one of the things that could work. It would make me feel so much better. So I did. None of them made it to the 12 tips ☹️

I went back to bed and sat there wondering what to do but then I read through that article again . I also remembered a time when being fit was part of who I was. So this article would not define the necessary steps I would have to take to get to where I want to be. I decided today was going to be my last cheat day (hence the last supper) and I would hit the gym and start my diet tomorrow morning. Something I have learnt to do is weighing the pros and cons then making a decision when I am unable to but this right here did not need any weighing at all. It was final; Both in mind and in spirit.

After deliberating with a few fitness enthusiasts on my contact list (yes you Brian) I figured it would take 8 weeks for me to get to where I want to be; diet (not starving people) and exercise inclusive. This would mean a lot of sacrifice which got me to another point where I felt the pinch. Amongst the things I would have to let go would be anything alcoholic including wine which Brian very much put the point across. There i was again on my computer googling “can I drink and still loose weight?” and then the disappointments still kept coming. Every article I opened gave me a big no to my face.

That being said I have come up with my own challenge 8 week fitness challenge. 2 months of sweat, sweat and more sweat. I look forward to drowning in the sweat and coming out of it a sexy champ! Haha. Do feel free to join me and also follow me on my Snapchat (username: kris_nyakundi) where I will be posting my daily work out routine and on my Instagram where I will be posting my meal plans. Also worry not for those who do not have social media accounts: I will be posting a weekly update on the process and exercises done with photos haha.

Its New Year’s Eve to my future fit self and we (me, my future strong core and I) just cant wait to start.

Quick disclaimer: If I haven’t written another article by Tuesday tops, do know that I was thrown out of the house for using dinner money to buy all the constituents of the last supper which were not all mentioned for this sole purpose. Put me in your prayers

Also other than my fitness challenge I am also participating in Rookie’s 52 Week Money Challenge and so far so great! Try it with me and see how far you can go as well.

Okay I got to go look for mint leaves for my drinking water and buy some fruits for some smoothies. Till next time, Let’s sweat it!!

Your girl Kris 😊

TAKING STOCK EINS (ONE)

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Wow!! Scared. Nervous. Did I say scared? Yes. Well probably this is going to be one of the few times I have ever written (or said) that word out loud in my 24 years. Yes people…I turned 24!! Almost at my quarter life and I’m not really sure how I feel about that. Been so long (years) since I wrote…..but guess what… I am back!!! I feel like the best way I can kick start this amazing story is by taking stock so let rip!

 

Making: A small yet detailed list of thing I want to see myself doing this year. I will not exactly call them resolutions but just set goal and targets. I think when I call them resolution its like someone has a gun to my head and if  don’t do what I said I would they will pull the trigger. I do plan to share this list with you when I am done as I also feel it’ll help keep me in check and I can engage with you all on the challenges and victories.

Cooking: Well tonight my Mom is doing all the cooking so….

Drinking: Finishing my last (and only) bottle of water. I must say that it has two tablespoons of raw apple cider vinegar and juice from one lemon squeeze. Yes I am trying to loose weight and get good skin at the same time and so far so good.

Reading: The Art of Asking; a memoir by Amanda Palmer written by Brene Brown. I have dedicated this year to try and read 26 books; one for each letter on the alphabet though they don’t have to start with that exact letter. Reviews shall be given on my reads also 🙂

Wanting: It to be Friday night so I can sleep in all of Saturday

Playing: In terms of games, Hangman Word (expands vocab). In terms of music I have Yuna’s “Crush” feat Usher and Miguel’s “Simple things” on repeat every now and then within the day.

Wasting: Not even a single day thinking of what it could be and trying to make it all real

Wishing: I could loose some inches around my waist as fast as yesterday

Enjoying: Trying out new recipes every other day.

Liking: Being able to go to sleep with a little peace of mind

Waiting: So much for Thursday!!!

Wondering: Why its called Alcoholics Anonymous when the first thing they do is stand up and say “My name is Chris and I’m an alcoholic”

Loving: My face and how smooth it is becoming day by day ( Look at that glow up there!!!)

Hoping: That this first step of writing will lead to consistency all through the year. Also that I will be able to publish relatable and quality content. I am still gathering topics for my categories and I should be done by the end of this week.

Needing: A photographer to work with on this project (though I already have one in mind). Know of any who would be ready to work with an upcoming blog?

Smelling: Brown Chapati made with ghee that we will have for supper. Yummm

Wearing: A light vest and casual sweats

Following: Tatiana Karanja aka MamaOlive…. have you seen Olive you people. Also I think O and Wayne the whiskey man are the Kenyan version of Riley and Steph Curry.

Knowing: That things will only get better from this point

Noticing: That time really doesn’t wait for you. Its already way past half of January so if you are going to do something start already!!!

Thinking: Of how great ill look after shedding off the extra plus my skin glow and how great this year is going to be.

Feeling: Blessed!

Opening: The One Child which is my blog right here. Super thrilled!!!

Giggling: At my friend George’s recent video .The guts in this guy haha

 

What do you think I am missing here? Let me know in the comments and I’ll add it in (:

 

From the Inside Out

There is nothing that gives me anxiety like counting days to something happening; a birthday party, big concert, interview, exam results, even getting my period😂. I bet most if not all of us suffer from anxiety about one thing or the other but do we actually know that anxiety is a mental health disorder? 

Ding ding ding! You guessed correct if you thought this article is about mental health. It is. I am going to try and talk (well write) about MENTAL HEALTH and i want this and the forthcoming articles after this to reach as many hearts as possible so if you get to read this kindly do share and feel free to comment below on your thoughts and sentiments. Its about time we all stopped ignoring and started talking about mental health.

Anyone who was an avid reader of my articles way back (it has been loooong since i wrote) is probably wondering what an interesting topic to have for a come back. It is a sensitive topic that has a soft spot in my heart mostly because i have been affected in one way or the other and i was caught offguard. I was forced to take a small step at a time to try and get my emotions together and comprehend the situation and i figured the only way that i would actually understand it all is by schooling myself. Over the past few weeks, i have been reading lots of articles and PDF formats on mental health and hopefully ill help one or two of us out here. 

I asked a few of my friends and colleagues what was the first thing that comes to their minds when they heard the word mental. The responses were absurdly ranging on the negative. I didnt judge cause if i was asked the same a few weeks ago i would have given a few of those answers myself. Too much weed, alcoholic, cursed, Mathari hospital, unfocused, not smart  (schoolwise), witchcraft, cocaine and hard drugs. These were the popular answers that i got. Now lets throw away these and get to the facts. In this article ill be brushing on the basics of mental health and ill expound on the article/s to follow.

Contrary to what everyone thinks to be mental health as i shared above, it is actually more than just going crazy and being admitted to a psych ward. Mental health is a state of well-being where one recognizes their abilities,is able to copewith the normal stresses of life, work productively and fruitfully, and make a contribution to their communities. I derived this from a WHO article. Its being able to be self aware of your emotions and intellectual capacity and dealing accordingly. Remember back there when i said that most of us suffer from anxiety and that it is a mental disorder? Makes sense now right? 

If anxiety itself is a disorder can you imagine how many mental disorders there are? And here you were laughing, looking down upon or disgracing those people you heard going for therapy or are hospitalised or seen them on the street and crossed the streets so fast cause you thought they would snatch your purse. Yes! Its a big shame! Want to know why? Cause once upon a time in your life even for a split second you were not able to cope with your emotions or feelings. That being said i hope your perspective of this has changed even a little on this topic.

Medical conditions and diseases associated with mental illness include:

  • Bipolar 
  • Schizophrenia 
  • Anxiety
  • Obsessive-compulsive disorder OCD
  • Post-traumatic stress disorder
  • Eating disorder
  • Personality disorder
  • Psychosis
  • Mood disorder
  • Panic disorder
  • Borderline personality disorder
  • Dissociative identity disorder
  • Agoraphobia 
  • Antisocial personalitydisorder
  • Schizoaffective disorder
  • Somatic sypmtom disorder
  • Substance use disorder
  • Oppositional defiant disorder
  • Dysthymia
  • Conduct disorder
  • Dissociative disorder
  • Intellectual disability 
  • Gender dysphoria
  • Development disorder
  • Major depressive disorder
  • Seasonal affective disorder
  • Spectrum disorder
  • Delusional disorder
  • Specific phobia
  • Adjustment disorder
  • Acute stress reaction
  • Mixed anxiety depressive disorder 
  • Paranoid personality disorder
  • Impulse control disorder
  • Postpartum depression
  • Cyclothymia
  • Depersonalization disorder
  • Psychogenic amnesia
  • Problem gambling
  • Factitious disorder
  • Tic disorder
  • Dependent personality disorder
  • Intermittent explosive disorder
  • Reactive attachment disorder
  • Conversion disorder

Now now i know you probably thought i was going to list one or two at most four things on this list and now you see how long it is! And it is not even all of them! 😮🙁😨 I had the same reaction believe me and i have had one of these even without knowing…the anxiety i mentioned above. From the above list you now know that not every mental disorder or illness is substance abuse related. I will expound on the major ones in the subsequent articles but for now i do hope that someone out there has a different perspective of mental illness; that they will not snear or ignore those people around them whose condition had gotten to the extreme cause you or someone close to you has had a disorder before or is going to have one at any time. I hope that after i am done with this mini series that we can put our #headstogether and talk about mental health.
Remember whatever you are going through, it sucks but its not forever.

With plenty of love,

The One Child😊

To learn more about the hashtag #Headstogether check out this link headstogether.org.uk

#90daysofhappiness

This year hasn’t really been one of the best for me…but hey who says it has to end the same way. End??? Yes guys END!! We are just under 100 days and we will be saying goodbye to 2015 and despite it not being all i had expected it to be, i have decided to make the remaining 90 days the best  for the year. I’m gonna make a home run!! 🙂 🙂

Inspired by a former classmate who has been using the hashtag 100 days of happiness on social media, i came up with mine. In these 90 days i’m gonna post something everyday that has been the highlight of my day that contributes to the hashtag meaning that i am hereforth challenging myself to being happy everyday :). I am also going to challenge everybody that is going to read this article to do the same…and share it with me on social media; facebook, instagram, twitter, snapchat… and lets spread the happiness and cheer wherever we are as we say goodbye to 2015.

We have been having our summer days here in Kenya and I am going to share an ice-cream recipe a friend and I tried one of these hot days as an epilogue to #90daysofhappiness. Be sure to try it 🙂 🙂 🙂

With happiness,

TheOneChild

COFFEE ICE-CREAM

Preparation time: 15 minutes

Cooking time: 10 minutes

Serves:4 

Ingredients: 500ml full fat milk 

                   1 tablespoon cornflour

                  1/2 cup sugar

                  1 1/2 tablespoon coffee granules (instant) 

                   1/4 teaspoon vanilla essence 

                  150gms fresh cream

Procedure: 

1. Dissolve the coffee in 1 tablespoon of hot water

2. Dissolve the cornflour in 1/2 cup of milk

3. Mix 2 cups of milk with sugar and bring to boil in a pan

4. Simmer for 5 to 7 minutes and add the milk and cornflour paste

5. Simmer for 2 to 3 minutes till it is of coating consistency

6. Add the coffee solution and mix well. Cool completely.

7. Add the vanilla essence and cream and mix well

8. Pour into a shallow container. Cover and freeze till it is almost set

9. Divide the mixture into 2 batches and churn each batch separately in a blender till it is smooth

10. Transfer both batches into a shallow container.

11. Cover and freeze till firm

12. Scoop and serve.

 There you have it

My country today: Independence ✔ Neocolonialism 💯

Funny how inspiration can come from a all kinds of places. Its about 3 am and I wake up, take my phone and Google to see if there are any new developments on the #Charlestonshooting story I was reading about just before I went to sleep.  There is a development..the suspect has been caught…a 21-year-old.
Something new that has been on the headlines recently is that Donald Trump is running for president! Haha well not that I am against it..well he is one of the world’s best or is it largest business moguls of our time and when I was listening to his declaration speech I couldn’t he’ll but notice that he repeatedly mentioned how wealthy he is. Well to the “average mind” they will believe that through these words and him expressing how wealthy he is, that he will be in power to help the people and not really to get money or fame out of it. Political analysts will say that he is simply trying to put it out there that the source of his campaigns will be from his own pocket. The One Child thinks it’s all a bunch of crap; just a political strategy; same story different cast. Who fooled you into believing that the rich don’t want to become more rich? In fact there is nothing in this world that would be of more pleasure to them. So where does my country come in in all of this? 

Kenya gained its independence in 1963 and to all Kenyans reading this article especially the me young adults take a good read. This is very eye opening heck! It woke me up at 3am. So what does gaining independence really mean? not influenced or controlled by others in matters of opinion, conduct.
It also means
1. not depending or contingent upon
something else for existence, operation

2. not relying on another or others for aid or support.

3. rejecting others’ aid/ support; refusing to be under obligation to others.

4.possessing a competency.

In relation to this context I will use the above 4 definitions.

So Kenya gained it’s independence which is a great thing but it is not so great when you look at the country’s current situation 50+ years down the line as an independent state. What is the situation you ask. Abject poverty, Poor economy, High child mortality rates, diseases, Minimal access to quality health services, Corruption amongst many others that i could think of. We are always asking ourselves and even each other in social media platforms ” where has the country gone wrong”  and its good to note that some young people have seen the truth and are trying to spread this truth to everyone but the best Kenyans can do is tweet back and criticise them saying all they want is fame and all kinda of excuses and reasons man give. I think the mother to all these reasons is simply NEOCOLONIALISM.

Some of you will ask “what do you mean neocolonialism? The whites are not suppressing us in any way. If anything they contribute to the economy through tourism and trade and education sponsorships and food and health aid and….” and that is the point I’ll shut you out! It’s about time we all stopped fooling ourselves and opened our eyes! Neocolonialism is real and it’s part of our society people!

“The land of 10 millionaires and 10 million beggars” is how J M Kariuki described Kenya. Is anyone who is still in the land of milk and honey called Kenya please explain to me why Kenya is in abject poverty? How and why is it that famine exists in some areas of Kenya with around 2 million Kenyans threatened by starvation, many more landless or are squatters while more than half of Kenya’s arable land is in the hands of 20 percent of the people?
Why is there abject poverty in Kenya both in rural and urban areas with 30% of the population in the capital city living in the biggest slum in Africa? Why do descendants of the same people who colonized us still own large tracts of land? Why and how is it that richest 20% of the population take 61%of urban incomes and 51% of rural ones? These are some of the questions that will leaf us to see how neocolonialism is alive and kicking.

The sad part is that the imperialist media have chosen to portray this as a tribal conflict in order to distract from the repressive role played by the Kenyan state making a Njuguna hate Atieno for no apparent reason. Instead of being the leaders that they are supposed to he cause indirectly in our modern technology day and age the media is ideally the leadership of the people cause they have lots of influence but what so they go ahead and do? They are in competition airing soap operas from as early as 5pm then when the child watches and learns they are stripped naked and humiliated leading to trauma and at worst suicide. They are having sex conversation more than is appropriate. From morning talk shows to late night radio shows. No one is talking about self growth or empowerment or how we can bring competition to these monopolies in Kenya that are killing us with their endless queues and straight up corruption. The saddest part most of us have taken the bite out of the apple.

The Kenyan economy is dominated by foreign multinationals; Unilever, Barclays Bank, BAT, Shell, BP, Caltex among others. Plantation agriculture accounts for a large proportion of the land and in
this sector the US-owned Del Monte is dominant. Kenya is shamelessly pillaged by these multinationals, with billions of Kenya shillings taken out of the country each year by them. This I also call monopoly and this is the big reason why
Kenya has been unable to develop.

While we now have some little facts about the truth what can we do about it? Appreciates your neighbours contribution. It was very sad the reaction people gave when the first Kenyan made laptop was officially released. “Too expensive” “I’d use that money elsewhere” Really? And you expect us to stop importing electronics from China with that kind of attitude? Invest in ideas people…let us use chase this youth fund they claim exists and build the next big thing. I’m tired of having to queue outside Electricity house because I really have no other option or waiting for days before KRA responds. If this country is to change and move forward it’s in the hands of us the people not them the corrupt leaders. Support local talent; music,art,photography,movies,…all of it

So before you judge that 21-year-old who said “You rape our women and you’re taking over our country. And you have to go,” before he started killing, make sure you do something not to get frustrated to that point cause truth is it does happen.
Jah Cure</'s song Wake up" should be enough inspiration to all of us.

With love,
The One Child

Wisdom Wednesdays 📚👗👚🚗🚃✈

Today I’ll be writing a few quotes on some few topics to keep us going for the remaining days of the week.

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On Daily Living: Be more concerned with your character than your reputation, because your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are.
John Wooden

On Travel: Once a month, go some place you’ve never been before #TembeaKenya 🙂

On Fashion: ‘Don’t be into trends. Don’t make fashion own you, but
you decide what you are, what you want to express by the
way you dress and the way you live.’  Gianni Versace

On Health and Fitness: “When it comes to eating right and exercising, there is no ‘I’ll start tomorrow.’ Tomorrow is disease.” ~
V.L. Allinear

On Dreams and Aspirations: If you can imagine it you can create it. If you can dream it, you can become it.

On having Fun: If you don’t enjoy the journey, chances are you won’t enjoy
the destination. Start having fun NOW! 😝😝

On Love and Friendship: You don’t love someone because they’re perfect, you
love them in spite of the fact that they’re not.
“The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for.”
Bob Marley

On Forgiveness: To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the
prisoner was you.

On Family: “There’s nothing that makes you more insane than family. Or more happy. Or more exasperated. Or more… secure.”
– Jim Butcher

On Religion and Faith: God didn’t promise days without pain, laughter without sorrow, or sun without rain,but He did promise strength for the day, comfort for the tears, and light for the way. If God brings you to it , He will bring you through it.

On Science and Atheism: Atheism is more than just the knowledge that gods do not exist, and that religion is either a mistake or a fraud. Atheism is an attitude, a frame of mind that looks at the world objectively, fearlessly, always
trying to understand all things as a
part of nature.

Signing out,
The One Child.

Learn how to firmly say no…do not hesitate 🙅

I’m not so sure how my English would be rated…I however attribute 80% of it to watching cartoons :), something that was a part of me as i was growing up as a little girl. 10% would come from books which I also started reading when I was young and advanced slowly from fairy tales (ladybird books whose front and last page was red and had 🐞🐞 all over) to big books like Secret Seven, Famous Five to comics like Archie and Veronica and progressed to more complex books. The other 10% I would attribute to the good education foundation I got(Lord bless you ma’). My reading culture is not as strong as it was back in the day but my love for cartoons has never died down and I’m proud to say that up to date I still do watch cartoons 🙂 🙊 🙈 *hides* Well today I was watching one of my best: Sponge Bob Square Pants 😀 😎 and in today’s episode Sponge Bob found himself between a rock and a hard place because he had hesitantly  said yes to all his friends  who needed his help and cause he loved them he did not want to disappoint either. Coincidentally they all needed his help on the exact same day and at the exact same time. I’ve not learnt how to use video downloader in time for this article so I’ll share the links..do watch Spongebob Squarepants Overbooked part 1 versi Ind…

Spongebob Squarepants Overbooked part 2 versi Ind… Lesson: Never hesitate to say no if it goes against what you want or plan. With love, Sponge Bob and The One Child 🙂 😚 image

Conspiracy theory 1: The rich will always remain rich and the poor will always remain poor

Over the past couple of years I have been trying to start a savings investment group with some of my acquaintances (practicing what i preach so i wont necessary call all of them friends😁) but somewhere along the way some of us didn’t take it seriously and we have had to absolve these groups…twice 😒. Now my reasons for wanting to have an active savings investment group are among many, to purchase an asset who’s value appreciates with time or to start a business…main reason being to have an extra source of income other than when I’ll be employed. I’m that type of girl who wants to be her own boss. I don’t want to be employed forever and for me to start my empire I have to start now when my energy and mind power is at it’s high. I’ll work for someone but not for long (future boss you better be reading this😂😝)

Did you know that 96% of rich people remain and a relatively same percent of poor people remain poor? Yes!.it’s actually very true. The question is: how is this true? Why is it like that? You are asking the wrong question people…you should be asking how do I become rich and how do I maintain it?

Well I’ll answer all the questions above…answers I got from a book or two and from some advice I got from my mom the other day when she was talking to me about the company I should keep around me(love you mom 😘)

A certain sociological study states that if you took all the money in the world away from everybody and divided it equally among the total world population (7 billion as per October 31st 2011) that in 5years it would be redistributed almost exactly as it was before it was taken away. Sad fact ey? So which leaves us with the question how do rich people spend their money or how do they remain rich?

You see poor people are unhappy with their financial and living situation so when they get their hands on money what they want to do is to improve their living standard. 90% of poor people who win the lottery will transform their lives…but they will focus on liquid assets. They’ll move to a bigger house,buy a bigger phone, buy expensive clothes and shoes, buy a car( I find it extremely ironical that someone would prefer paying rent and have a car to using public means and buy a bag of cement every week to build/buy his own house…misplaced priorities right there) or buy human hair weaves. The poor want to show those around them,who also happen to be the poor, that they are in a better situation cause hey “I don’t need you anymore I just won the lottery” Rich people on the other hand want to maintain their wealth so when rich people win the lottery they also improve their living standards; only difference is they do it while focusing and thinking of the future. Oh yea before I forget watching Will Smith’s focus could also teach a thing or two if your eyes are mentally open. So how do they improve their situation? They invest in property, fine art pieces, stocks, bonds, equities, purchase of land, expand their business, start new businesses and they turn to their fellow rich to ask for tips on how to make more out of what they already have. Dont get it twisted: rich people need other rich people in order to remain rich..that is a fact.

Why can’t poor people; who are the majority, become rich when there are few rich people “standing in their way”? I saw this question in a certain article and the out of all the answers I came up with,these seemed to be the most common reasons why…ignorance,arrogance,misplaced priorities and lack of focus. These sums up every other reason you could come up with. What then can poor people (or even you…yes you that is reading this article) do to become rich?

1. Invest in knowledge. Information is power. Read as much as you can whenever you can.
Some of you will say you are not readers; which is another thing poor people do..giving excuses…so if you do not have the concentration power then whenever you sit down with your group of friends or when you meet new people exchange ideas, talk about things that will make you grow mentally and physiologically. Always make sure that you can contribute to a meaningful conversation. You never know who you sit next to. They might be an investor looking for a business partner. I highly recommend reading lots of books though.
The white man said if you want to hide something from an African hide it in the book..they didn’t say that for nothing.

2. Properly arrange your priorities. Especially us young people. We want to be the future with slogans like “Vision 2030” but we are more focused on dressing better than Stacy or looking as cool as Drake or having a booty like Nicki Minaj…misplaced priorities guys. How about start a group in your neighbourhood to clean up the street and get paid by your MCA’s or join a book club…there’s always somewhere to start.

These other points I collected from Robert Kiyosaki’s “Rich Dad Poor Dad”:D
3. The Cash Flow Quadrant. “Be-Do-Have” you want to Be rich you have to Do what the rich do and you’ll Have what the rich have.

4. Decide the money problems you want have. You either want to have too much or not enough. Choices!  Choices!

5. Write down your plans and follow them. If you have to go all MaryJanePaul and put sticky notes everywhere as a constant reminder then do it!

6. Choose your friends and business partners wisely. We covered that in the last article.

7. Give yourself time. It doesn’t happen overnight. Rome was not built in a day

8. Start small, dream big. Don’t be afraid to start but once you do don’t stop. Keep going!

9. To expand, you must contract. You will have to forgive your past; all the wrong choices you made. Make peace with your past then be disciplined.

10. When you’ve made it Share! Share! Share!. The more you share the richer you become. That answers my friend who asked why rich people give so much to charity. The hand that gives receives.

Now hope that is good enough motivation to start your week off and the remaining half of the year…184 days gone 182 to go…make that step!

Anyone serious about a savings investment group? :mrgreen::) Call me

With love,
The One Child

Friend or foe

We all get excited when we turn on our data and notifications pop up…east_african_king requested to follow you on instagram or you have three friend requests on Facebook or you have a new follower on twitter and on all these other social sites that exist and I may not know about…and yes sometimes we find ourselves stalking(😝yes I used that word) our friend’s profiles to check if they have more friends or more likes in their previous photos than we do…but really…how many friends out of the thousands on Facebook and hundreds on instagram do we know? How many are true? How many do we turn down to know cause of how their photos look or how many likes their photos get or what our friends think of them? Simply put…what is the ideal definition of a friend? And if they are not a friend;are they the opposite…a foe? And if they are neither of the two what are they?….😐

Friend-someone you know well and like,  but who is not a member of your family.

Foe-an enemy.
Enemy- someone who is opposed to someone else and tries to do them harm.

My best friend; who hasn’t talked to me in almost a week (gosh buddy I’m sorry if you are reading this text me ASAP I miss you:(), has always been a believer of the famous quote: show me you your friends….I know we all know it…and really I used to think that as long as someone does not cross your path..you know, do what makes you angry or sad and knows exactly what would make you flip no matter their beliefs or way of life then they are good enough to be a friend…yes good enough…but recently my way of thinking is…rather has changed and now I am a strong believer of the quote…and for those who don’t know it….show me your friends and I’ll tell who you are.

I will not sit and write about what a certain friend did to me or what I did to a certain friend of mine…cause that’s not this article or my blog is about…but will just write about my general view about friendship.
I’ll start with this…I don’t believe in a good friend or a bad friend…someone is either your friend or nah! And if they are not your friend they are your acquaintance, workmate,neighbour, schoolmate, classmate, a friend of a friend, an ex,or whatever other title their is. Life is all about balance; ying Yang, day night, black white, male female, and friend or nah…period…so nothing like a good friend and a bad friend.

Two…what are the qualities of a friend? Regardless of who you are I think we all agree on some points that I shall write below..
Qualities of a friend
1. A friend is honest. They may not share every detail of every second of
their life, but they do try to be clear about their intentions. This means that they try to present an accurate picture of who they are and of different situations.

2.A friend is fun, unique and interesting.
OK, this is a given, and probably the reason you became friends in the first place. But there’s a lot to be said for chemistry and shared interests. As for fun, it depends how you define it: Some friends are fun because they’re the life of the party, others are fun because they notice every strange little detail about a
situation. Some people are fun simply because they see life like no one else does.

3. A friend is attentive and adaptable.
A friend is at least a fairly good listener and notices how little, day-to-day things affect you. They can’t read your mind, but chances are they can usually tell when you’re happy, sad, excited,shocked or upset. If they’re aware that they’re doing something that annoys you, they try to change their ways or at least talk to you about it.

4. A friend is supportive of you and
your goals.
Sure, your friend may think you’re cool, but are they on the same page as you? Do they know what you want most out
of life? A really good friend will know what makes you tick and help you become the person you want to be. They won’t try to change who you are or drag you into situations that make you uncomfortable or put you at risk of losing something that matters to you.

5. A friend is a person you can trust.
A true friend won’t try to steal your girlfriend or boyfriend, your job or your personality. They won’t gossip about you constantly or try to damage your reputation. They will let you know when they’re concerned and do their best to stick up for you when you’re in trouble.

6. A friend makes it clear that they care
about you.
Different people may have different ways of letting you know that they care about you. One person may give you a big hug whereas another person might gently tease you. A big clue that someone cares is that they talk to you fairly often and, in general, know what’s going on in your life and act interested about it.

7. A  friend sticks with you in good
times and bad.
Loyalty is a quality almost everyone lists when asked what they look for in a friend. A loyal friend will stick with you
when your new play is a flop, when you bomb the SATs or when your parents get divorced. If you move or switch
schools, they’ll do their best to stay in touch with you.

8. A  friend accepts you for who you
are, even when you’re being a butthead.
In friendship, being accepting goes hand in hand with being loyal. A true friend rolls with the punches as you grow and
change and know how to deal with your quirks and faults. They are also patient with you when you make mistakes —
even big ones — and learn how to forgive you when you hurt them. In other words, they treat you as you’d like to be treated, even when you aren’t at your best.

Those are just a few of what I think a friend’s qualities should be like…Im not perfect best believe but I try..and I know I’m doing something worthwhile cause the true friends have been there all the way no matter what…
As for my best bud…I sit with fingers crossed and hope he comes through…and that it happens soon.

Its the weekend people…as you all let loose and have your own different kinds of fun,take a minute and watch who you call friend or for.

A friendly relationship between people is like warm,sunny weather.
Happy weekend

With love,
The One Child