We all get excited when we turn on our data and notifications pop up…east_african_king requested to follow you on instagram or you have three friend requests on Facebook or you have a new follower on twitter and on all these other social sites that exist and I may not know about…and yes sometimes we find ourselves stalking(😝yes I used that word) our friend’s profiles to check if they have more friends or more likes in their previous photos than we do…but really…how many friends out of the thousands on Facebook and hundreds on instagram do we know? How many are true? How many do we turn down to know cause of how their photos look or how many likes their photos get or what our friends think of them? Simply put…what is the ideal definition of a friend? And if they are not a friend;are they the opposite…a foe? And if they are neither of the two what are they?….😐
Friend-someone you know well and like, but who is not a member of your family.
Enemy- someone who is opposed to someone else and tries to do them harm.
My best friend; who hasn’t talked to me in almost a week (gosh buddy I’m sorry if you are reading this text me ASAP I miss you:(), has always been a believer of the famous quote: show me you your friends….I know we all know it…and really I used to think that as long as someone does not cross your path..you know, do what makes you angry or sad and knows exactly what would make you flip no matter their beliefs or way of life then they are good enough to be a friend…yes good enough…but recently my way of thinking is…rather has changed and now I am a strong believer of the quote…and for those who don’t know it….show me your friends and I’ll tell who you are.
I will not sit and write about what a certain friend did to me or what I did to a certain friend of mine…cause that’s not this article or my blog is about…but will just write about my general view about friendship.
I’ll start with this…I don’t believe in a good friend or a bad friend…someone is either your friend or nah! And if they are not your friend they are your acquaintance, workmate,neighbour, schoolmate, classmate, a friend of a friend, an ex,or whatever other title their is. Life is all about balance; ying Yang, day night, black white, male female, and friend or nah…period…so nothing like a good friend and a bad friend.
Two…what are the qualities of a friend? Regardless of who you are I think we all agree on some points that I shall write below..
Qualities of a friend
1. A friend is honest. They may not share every detail of every second of
their life, but they do try to be clear about their intentions. This means that they try to present an accurate picture of who they are and of different situations.
2.A friend is fun, unique and interesting.
OK, this is a given, and probably the reason you became friends in the first place. But there’s a lot to be said for chemistry and shared interests. As for fun, it depends how you define it: Some friends are fun because they’re the life of the party, others are fun because they notice every strange little detail about a
situation. Some people are fun simply because they see life like no one else does.
3. A friend is attentive and adaptable.
A friend is at least a fairly good listener and notices how little, day-to-day things affect you. They can’t read your mind, but chances are they can usually tell when you’re happy, sad, excited,shocked or upset. If they’re aware that they’re doing something that annoys you, they try to change their ways or at least talk to you about it.
4. A friend is supportive of you and
Sure, your friend may think you’re cool, but are they on the same page as you? Do they know what you want most out
of life? A really good friend will know what makes you tick and help you become the person you want to be. They won’t try to change who you are or drag you into situations that make you uncomfortable or put you at risk of losing something that matters to you.
5. A friend is a person you can trust.
A true friend won’t try to steal your girlfriend or boyfriend, your job or your personality. They won’t gossip about you constantly or try to damage your reputation. They will let you know when they’re concerned and do their best to stick up for you when you’re in trouble.
6. A friend makes it clear that they care
Different people may have different ways of letting you know that they care about you. One person may give you a big hug whereas another person might gently tease you. A big clue that someone cares is that they talk to you fairly often and, in general, know what’s going on in your life and act interested about it.
7. A friend sticks with you in good
times and bad.
Loyalty is a quality almost everyone lists when asked what they look for in a friend. A loyal friend will stick with you
when your new play is a flop, when you bomb the SATs or when your parents get divorced. If you move or switch
schools, they’ll do their best to stay in touch with you.
8. A friend accepts you for who you
are, even when you’re being a butthead.
In friendship, being accepting goes hand in hand with being loyal. A true friend rolls with the punches as you grow and
change and know how to deal with your quirks and faults. They are also patient with you when you make mistakes —
even big ones — and learn how to forgive you when you hurt them. In other words, they treat you as you’d like to be treated, even when you aren’t at your best.
Those are just a few of what I think a friend’s qualities should be like…Im not perfect best believe but I try..and I know I’m doing something worthwhile cause the true friends have been there all the way no matter what…
As for my best bud…I sit with fingers crossed and hope he comes through…and that it happens soon.
Its the weekend people…as you all let loose and have your own different kinds of fun,take a minute and watch who you call friend or for.
A friendly relationship between people is like warm,sunny weather.
The One Child