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TAKING STOCK EINS (ONE)

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Wow!! Scared. Nervous. Did I say scared? Yes. Well probably this is going to be one of the few times I have ever written (or said) that word out loud in my 24 years. Yes people…I turned 24!! Almost at my quarter life and I’m not really sure how I feel about that. Been so long (years) since I wrote…..but guess what… I am back!!! I feel like the best way I can kick start this amazing story is by taking stock so let rip!

 

Making: A small yet detailed list of thing I want to see myself doing this year. I will not exactly call them resolutions but just set goal and targets. I think when I call them resolution its like someone has a gun to my head and if  don’t do what I said I would they will pull the trigger. I do plan to share this list with you when I am done as I also feel it’ll help keep me in check and I can engage with you all on the challenges and victories.

Cooking: Well tonight my Mom is doing all the cooking so….

Drinking: Finishing my last (and only) bottle of water. I must say that it has two tablespoons of raw apple cider vinegar and juice from one lemon squeeze. Yes I am trying to loose weight and get good skin at the same time and so far so good.

Reading: The Art of Asking; a memoir by Amanda Palmer written by Brene Brown. I have dedicated this year to try and read 26 books; one for each letter on the alphabet though they don’t have to start with that exact letter. Reviews shall be given on my reads also 🙂

Wanting: It to be Friday night so I can sleep in all of Saturday

Playing: In terms of games, Hangman Word (expands vocab). In terms of music I have Yuna’s “Crush” feat Usher and Miguel’s “Simple things” on repeat every now and then within the day.

Wasting: Not even a single day thinking of what it could be and trying to make it all real

Wishing: I could loose some inches around my waist as fast as yesterday

Enjoying: Trying out new recipes every other day.

Liking: Being able to go to sleep with a little peace of mind

Waiting: So much for Thursday!!!

Wondering: Why its called Alcoholics Anonymous when the first thing they do is stand up and say “My name is Chris and I’m an alcoholic”

Loving: My face and how smooth it is becoming day by day ( Look at that glow up there!!!)

Hoping: That this first step of writing will lead to consistency all through the year. Also that I will be able to publish relatable and quality content. I am still gathering topics for my categories and I should be done by the end of this week.

Needing: A photographer to work with on this project (though I already have one in mind). Know of any who would be ready to work with an upcoming blog?

Smelling: Brown Chapati made with ghee that we will have for supper. Yummm

Wearing: A light vest and casual sweats

Following: Tatiana Karanja aka MamaOlive…. have you seen Olive you people. Also I think O and Wayne the whiskey man are the Kenyan version of Riley and Steph Curry.

Knowing: That things will only get better from this point

Noticing: That time really doesn’t wait for you. Its already way past half of January so if you are going to do something start already!!!

Thinking: Of how great ill look after shedding off the extra plus my skin glow and how great this year is going to be.

Feeling: Blessed!

Opening: The One Child which is my blog right here. Super thrilled!!!

Giggling: At my friend George’s recent video .The guts in this guy haha

 

What do you think I am missing here? Let me know in the comments and I’ll add it in (:

 

#90daysofhappiness

This year hasn’t really been one of the best for me…but hey who says it has to end the same way. End??? Yes guys END!! We are just under 100 days and we will be saying goodbye to 2015 and despite it not being all i had expected it to be, i have decided to make the remaining 90 days the best  for the year. I’m gonna make a home run!! 🙂 🙂

Inspired by a former classmate who has been using the hashtag 100 days of happiness on social media, i came up with mine. In these 90 days i’m gonna post something everyday that has been the highlight of my day that contributes to the hashtag meaning that i am hereforth challenging myself to being happy everyday :). I am also going to challenge everybody that is going to read this article to do the same…and share it with me on social media; facebook, instagram, twitter, snapchat… and lets spread the happiness and cheer wherever we are as we say goodbye to 2015.

We have been having our summer days here in Kenya and I am going to share an ice-cream recipe a friend and I tried one of these hot days as an epilogue to #90daysofhappiness. Be sure to try it 🙂 🙂 🙂

With happiness,

TheOneChild

COFFEE ICE-CREAM

Preparation time: 15 minutes

Cooking time: 10 minutes

Serves:4 

Ingredients: 500ml full fat milk 

                   1 tablespoon cornflour

                  1/2 cup sugar

                  1 1/2 tablespoon coffee granules (instant) 

                   1/4 teaspoon vanilla essence 

                  150gms fresh cream

Procedure: 

1. Dissolve the coffee in 1 tablespoon of hot water

2. Dissolve the cornflour in 1/2 cup of milk

3. Mix 2 cups of milk with sugar and bring to boil in a pan

4. Simmer for 5 to 7 minutes and add the milk and cornflour paste

5. Simmer for 2 to 3 minutes till it is of coating consistency

6. Add the coffee solution and mix well. Cool completely.

7. Add the vanilla essence and cream and mix well

8. Pour into a shallow container. Cover and freeze till it is almost set

9. Divide the mixture into 2 batches and churn each batch separately in a blender till it is smooth

10. Transfer both batches into a shallow container.

11. Cover and freeze till firm

12. Scoop and serve.

 There you have it

My country today: Independence ✔ Neocolonialism 💯

Funny how inspiration can come from a all kinds of places. Its about 3 am and I wake up, take my phone and Google to see if there are any new developments on the #Charlestonshooting story I was reading about just before I went to sleep.  There is a development..the suspect has been caught…a 21-year-old.
Something new that has been on the headlines recently is that Donald Trump is running for president! Haha well not that I am against it..well he is one of the world’s best or is it largest business moguls of our time and when I was listening to his declaration speech I couldn’t he’ll but notice that he repeatedly mentioned how wealthy he is. Well to the “average mind” they will believe that through these words and him expressing how wealthy he is, that he will be in power to help the people and not really to get money or fame out of it. Political analysts will say that he is simply trying to put it out there that the source of his campaigns will be from his own pocket. The One Child thinks it’s all a bunch of crap; just a political strategy; same story different cast. Who fooled you into believing that the rich don’t want to become more rich? In fact there is nothing in this world that would be of more pleasure to them. So where does my country come in in all of this? 

Kenya gained its independence in 1963 and to all Kenyans reading this article especially the me young adults take a good read. This is very eye opening heck! It woke me up at 3am. So what does gaining independence really mean? not influenced or controlled by others in matters of opinion, conduct.
It also means
1. not depending or contingent upon
something else for existence, operation

2. not relying on another or others for aid or support.

3. rejecting others’ aid/ support; refusing to be under obligation to others.

4.possessing a competency.

In relation to this context I will use the above 4 definitions.

So Kenya gained it’s independence which is a great thing but it is not so great when you look at the country’s current situation 50+ years down the line as an independent state. What is the situation you ask. Abject poverty, Poor economy, High child mortality rates, diseases, Minimal access to quality health services, Corruption amongst many others that i could think of. We are always asking ourselves and even each other in social media platforms ” where has the country gone wrong”  and its good to note that some young people have seen the truth and are trying to spread this truth to everyone but the best Kenyans can do is tweet back and criticise them saying all they want is fame and all kinda of excuses and reasons man give. I think the mother to all these reasons is simply NEOCOLONIALISM.

Some of you will ask “what do you mean neocolonialism? The whites are not suppressing us in any way. If anything they contribute to the economy through tourism and trade and education sponsorships and food and health aid and….” and that is the point I’ll shut you out! It’s about time we all stopped fooling ourselves and opened our eyes! Neocolonialism is real and it’s part of our society people!

“The land of 10 millionaires and 10 million beggars” is how J M Kariuki described Kenya. Is anyone who is still in the land of milk and honey called Kenya please explain to me why Kenya is in abject poverty? How and why is it that famine exists in some areas of Kenya with around 2 million Kenyans threatened by starvation, many more landless or are squatters while more than half of Kenya’s arable land is in the hands of 20 percent of the people?
Why is there abject poverty in Kenya both in rural and urban areas with 30% of the population in the capital city living in the biggest slum in Africa? Why do descendants of the same people who colonized us still own large tracts of land? Why and how is it that richest 20% of the population take 61%of urban incomes and 51% of rural ones? These are some of the questions that will leaf us to see how neocolonialism is alive and kicking.

The sad part is that the imperialist media have chosen to portray this as a tribal conflict in order to distract from the repressive role played by the Kenyan state making a Njuguna hate Atieno for no apparent reason. Instead of being the leaders that they are supposed to he cause indirectly in our modern technology day and age the media is ideally the leadership of the people cause they have lots of influence but what so they go ahead and do? They are in competition airing soap operas from as early as 5pm then when the child watches and learns they are stripped naked and humiliated leading to trauma and at worst suicide. They are having sex conversation more than is appropriate. From morning talk shows to late night radio shows. No one is talking about self growth or empowerment or how we can bring competition to these monopolies in Kenya that are killing us with their endless queues and straight up corruption. The saddest part most of us have taken the bite out of the apple.

The Kenyan economy is dominated by foreign multinationals; Unilever, Barclays Bank, BAT, Shell, BP, Caltex among others. Plantation agriculture accounts for a large proportion of the land and in
this sector the US-owned Del Monte is dominant. Kenya is shamelessly pillaged by these multinationals, with billions of Kenya shillings taken out of the country each year by them. This I also call monopoly and this is the big reason why
Kenya has been unable to develop.

While we now have some little facts about the truth what can we do about it? Appreciates your neighbours contribution. It was very sad the reaction people gave when the first Kenyan made laptop was officially released. “Too expensive” “I’d use that money elsewhere” Really? And you expect us to stop importing electronics from China with that kind of attitude? Invest in ideas people…let us use chase this youth fund they claim exists and build the next big thing. I’m tired of having to queue outside Electricity house because I really have no other option or waiting for days before KRA responds. If this country is to change and move forward it’s in the hands of us the people not them the corrupt leaders. Support local talent; music,art,photography,movies,…all of it

So before you judge that 21-year-old who said “You rape our women and you’re taking over our country. And you have to go,” before he started killing, make sure you do something not to get frustrated to that point cause truth is it does happen.
Jah Cure</'s song Wake up" should be enough inspiration to all of us.

With love,
The One Child

Wisdom Wednesdays 📚👗👚🚗🚃✈

Today I’ll be writing a few quotes on some few topics to keep us going for the remaining days of the week.

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On Daily Living: Be more concerned with your character than your reputation, because your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are.
John Wooden

On Travel: Once a month, go some place you’ve never been before #TembeaKenya 🙂

On Fashion: ‘Don’t be into trends. Don’t make fashion own you, but
you decide what you are, what you want to express by the
way you dress and the way you live.’  Gianni Versace

On Health and Fitness: “When it comes to eating right and exercising, there is no ‘I’ll start tomorrow.’ Tomorrow is disease.” ~
V.L. Allinear

On Dreams and Aspirations: If you can imagine it you can create it. If you can dream it, you can become it.

On having Fun: If you don’t enjoy the journey, chances are you won’t enjoy
the destination. Start having fun NOW! 😝😝

On Love and Friendship: You don’t love someone because they’re perfect, you
love them in spite of the fact that they’re not.
“The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for.”
Bob Marley

On Forgiveness: To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the
prisoner was you.

On Family: “There’s nothing that makes you more insane than family. Or more happy. Or more exasperated. Or more… secure.”
– Jim Butcher

On Religion and Faith: God didn’t promise days without pain, laughter without sorrow, or sun without rain,but He did promise strength for the day, comfort for the tears, and light for the way. If God brings you to it , He will bring you through it.

On Science and Atheism: Atheism is more than just the knowledge that gods do not exist, and that religion is either a mistake or a fraud. Atheism is an attitude, a frame of mind that looks at the world objectively, fearlessly, always
trying to understand all things as a
part of nature.

Signing out,
The One Child.

Learn how to firmly say no…do not hesitate 🙅

I’m not so sure how my English would be rated…I however attribute 80% of it to watching cartoons :), something that was a part of me as i was growing up as a little girl. 10% would come from books which I also started reading when I was young and advanced slowly from fairy tales (ladybird books whose front and last page was red and had 🐞🐞 all over) to big books like Secret Seven, Famous Five to comics like Archie and Veronica and progressed to more complex books. The other 10% I would attribute to the good education foundation I got(Lord bless you ma’). My reading culture is not as strong as it was back in the day but my love for cartoons has never died down and I’m proud to say that up to date I still do watch cartoons 🙂 🙊 🙈 *hides* Well today I was watching one of my best: Sponge Bob Square Pants 😀 😎 and in today’s episode Sponge Bob found himself between a rock and a hard place because he had hesitantly  said yes to all his friends  who needed his help and cause he loved them he did not want to disappoint either. Coincidentally they all needed his help on the exact same day and at the exact same time. I’ve not learnt how to use video downloader in time for this article so I’ll share the links..do watch Spongebob Squarepants Overbooked part 1 versi Ind…

Spongebob Squarepants Overbooked part 2 versi Ind… Lesson: Never hesitate to say no if it goes against what you want or plan. With love, Sponge Bob and The One Child 🙂 😚 image

Conspiracy theory 1: The rich will always remain rich and the poor will always remain poor

Over the past couple of years I have been trying to start a savings investment group with some of my acquaintances (practicing what i preach so i wont necessary call all of them friends😁) but somewhere along the way some of us didn’t take it seriously and we have had to absolve these groups…twice 😒. Now my reasons for wanting to have an active savings investment group are among many, to purchase an asset who’s value appreciates with time or to start a business…main reason being to have an extra source of income other than when I’ll be employed. I’m that type of girl who wants to be her own boss. I don’t want to be employed forever and for me to start my empire I have to start now when my energy and mind power is at it’s high. I’ll work for someone but not for long (future boss you better be reading this😂😝)

Did you know that 96% of rich people remain and a relatively same percent of poor people remain poor? Yes!.it’s actually very true. The question is: how is this true? Why is it like that? You are asking the wrong question people…you should be asking how do I become rich and how do I maintain it?

Well I’ll answer all the questions above…answers I got from a book or two and from some advice I got from my mom the other day when she was talking to me about the company I should keep around me(love you mom 😘)

A certain sociological study states that if you took all the money in the world away from everybody and divided it equally among the total world population (7 billion as per October 31st 2011) that in 5years it would be redistributed almost exactly as it was before it was taken away. Sad fact ey? So which leaves us with the question how do rich people spend their money or how do they remain rich?

You see poor people are unhappy with their financial and living situation so when they get their hands on money what they want to do is to improve their living standard. 90% of poor people who win the lottery will transform their lives…but they will focus on liquid assets. They’ll move to a bigger house,buy a bigger phone, buy expensive clothes and shoes, buy a car( I find it extremely ironical that someone would prefer paying rent and have a car to using public means and buy a bag of cement every week to build/buy his own house…misplaced priorities right there) or buy human hair weaves. The poor want to show those around them,who also happen to be the poor, that they are in a better situation cause hey “I don’t need you anymore I just won the lottery” Rich people on the other hand want to maintain their wealth so when rich people win the lottery they also improve their living standards; only difference is they do it while focusing and thinking of the future. Oh yea before I forget watching Will Smith’s focus could also teach a thing or two if your eyes are mentally open. So how do they improve their situation? They invest in property, fine art pieces, stocks, bonds, equities, purchase of land, expand their business, start new businesses and they turn to their fellow rich to ask for tips on how to make more out of what they already have. Dont get it twisted: rich people need other rich people in order to remain rich..that is a fact.

Why can’t poor people; who are the majority, become rich when there are few rich people “standing in their way”? I saw this question in a certain article and the out of all the answers I came up with,these seemed to be the most common reasons why…ignorance,arrogance,misplaced priorities and lack of focus. These sums up every other reason you could come up with. What then can poor people (or even you…yes you that is reading this article) do to become rich?

1. Invest in knowledge. Information is power. Read as much as you can whenever you can.
Some of you will say you are not readers; which is another thing poor people do..giving excuses…so if you do not have the concentration power then whenever you sit down with your group of friends or when you meet new people exchange ideas, talk about things that will make you grow mentally and physiologically. Always make sure that you can contribute to a meaningful conversation. You never know who you sit next to. They might be an investor looking for a business partner. I highly recommend reading lots of books though.
The white man said if you want to hide something from an African hide it in the book..they didn’t say that for nothing.

2. Properly arrange your priorities. Especially us young people. We want to be the future with slogans like “Vision 2030” but we are more focused on dressing better than Stacy or looking as cool as Drake or having a booty like Nicki Minaj…misplaced priorities guys. How about start a group in your neighbourhood to clean up the street and get paid by your MCA’s or join a book club…there’s always somewhere to start.

These other points I collected from Robert Kiyosaki’s “Rich Dad Poor Dad”:D
3. The Cash Flow Quadrant. “Be-Do-Have” you want to Be rich you have to Do what the rich do and you’ll Have what the rich have.

4. Decide the money problems you want have. You either want to have too much or not enough. Choices!  Choices!

5. Write down your plans and follow them. If you have to go all MaryJanePaul and put sticky notes everywhere as a constant reminder then do it!

6. Choose your friends and business partners wisely. We covered that in the last article.

7. Give yourself time. It doesn’t happen overnight. Rome was not built in a day

8. Start small, dream big. Don’t be afraid to start but once you do don’t stop. Keep going!

9. To expand, you must contract. You will have to forgive your past; all the wrong choices you made. Make peace with your past then be disciplined.

10. When you’ve made it Share! Share! Share!. The more you share the richer you become. That answers my friend who asked why rich people give so much to charity. The hand that gives receives.

Now hope that is good enough motivation to start your week off and the remaining half of the year…184 days gone 182 to go…make that step!

Anyone serious about a savings investment group? :mrgreen::) Call me

With love,
The One Child

Friend or foe

We all get excited when we turn on our data and notifications pop up…east_african_king requested to follow you on instagram or you have three friend requests on Facebook or you have a new follower on twitter and on all these other social sites that exist and I may not know about…and yes sometimes we find ourselves stalking(😝yes I used that word) our friend’s profiles to check if they have more friends or more likes in their previous photos than we do…but really…how many friends out of the thousands on Facebook and hundreds on instagram do we know? How many are true? How many do we turn down to know cause of how their photos look or how many likes their photos get or what our friends think of them? Simply put…what is the ideal definition of a friend? And if they are not a friend;are they the opposite…a foe? And if they are neither of the two what are they?….😐

Friend-someone you know well and like,  but who is not a member of your family.

Foe-an enemy.
Enemy- someone who is opposed to someone else and tries to do them harm.

My best friend; who hasn’t talked to me in almost a week (gosh buddy I’m sorry if you are reading this text me ASAP I miss you:(), has always been a believer of the famous quote: show me you your friends….I know we all know it…and really I used to think that as long as someone does not cross your path..you know, do what makes you angry or sad and knows exactly what would make you flip no matter their beliefs or way of life then they are good enough to be a friend…yes good enough…but recently my way of thinking is…rather has changed and now I am a strong believer of the quote…and for those who don’t know it….show me your friends and I’ll tell who you are.

I will not sit and write about what a certain friend did to me or what I did to a certain friend of mine…cause that’s not this article or my blog is about…but will just write about my general view about friendship.
I’ll start with this…I don’t believe in a good friend or a bad friend…someone is either your friend or nah! And if they are not your friend they are your acquaintance, workmate,neighbour, schoolmate, classmate, a friend of a friend, an ex,or whatever other title their is. Life is all about balance; ying Yang, day night, black white, male female, and friend or nah…period…so nothing like a good friend and a bad friend.

Two…what are the qualities of a friend? Regardless of who you are I think we all agree on some points that I shall write below..
Qualities of a friend
1. A friend is honest. They may not share every detail of every second of
their life, but they do try to be clear about their intentions. This means that they try to present an accurate picture of who they are and of different situations.

2.A friend is fun, unique and interesting.
OK, this is a given, and probably the reason you became friends in the first place. But there’s a lot to be said for chemistry and shared interests. As for fun, it depends how you define it: Some friends are fun because they’re the life of the party, others are fun because they notice every strange little detail about a
situation. Some people are fun simply because they see life like no one else does.

3. A friend is attentive and adaptable.
A friend is at least a fairly good listener and notices how little, day-to-day things affect you. They can’t read your mind, but chances are they can usually tell when you’re happy, sad, excited,shocked or upset. If they’re aware that they’re doing something that annoys you, they try to change their ways or at least talk to you about it.

4. A friend is supportive of you and
your goals.
Sure, your friend may think you’re cool, but are they on the same page as you? Do they know what you want most out
of life? A really good friend will know what makes you tick and help you become the person you want to be. They won’t try to change who you are or drag you into situations that make you uncomfortable or put you at risk of losing something that matters to you.

5. A friend is a person you can trust.
A true friend won’t try to steal your girlfriend or boyfriend, your job or your personality. They won’t gossip about you constantly or try to damage your reputation. They will let you know when they’re concerned and do their best to stick up for you when you’re in trouble.

6. A friend makes it clear that they care
about you.
Different people may have different ways of letting you know that they care about you. One person may give you a big hug whereas another person might gently tease you. A big clue that someone cares is that they talk to you fairly often and, in general, know what’s going on in your life and act interested about it.

7. A  friend sticks with you in good
times and bad.
Loyalty is a quality almost everyone lists when asked what they look for in a friend. A loyal friend will stick with you
when your new play is a flop, when you bomb the SATs or when your parents get divorced. If you move or switch
schools, they’ll do their best to stay in touch with you.

8. A  friend accepts you for who you
are, even when you’re being a butthead.
In friendship, being accepting goes hand in hand with being loyal. A true friend rolls with the punches as you grow and
change and know how to deal with your quirks and faults. They are also patient with you when you make mistakes —
even big ones — and learn how to forgive you when you hurt them. In other words, they treat you as you’d like to be treated, even when you aren’t at your best.

Those are just a few of what I think a friend’s qualities should be like…Im not perfect best believe but I try..and I know I’m doing something worthwhile cause the true friends have been there all the way no matter what…
As for my best bud…I sit with fingers crossed and hope he comes through…and that it happens soon.

Its the weekend people…as you all let loose and have your own different kinds of fun,take a minute and watch who you call friend or for.

A friendly relationship between people is like warm,sunny weather.
Happy weekend

With love,
The One Child

she was barely 25….she had just started enjoying her 20’s..looking foward to graduating and was in a relationship….not just any relationship…her’s was enviable. and that was not something she said to make herself happy. she saw it all around her….her friend’s, her mates friends…..and she too was happy. you know the way we watch movies and read books as kids about the charming prince. well she had found hers..at least thats what she thought and felt…her paartner i crime,shoulder to lean on,key to the lock…..those are just but some words that could describe it.and it was not until that night that she finally realised what all this really was…

they had been together a few days back and as she escorted him to the bus stop that evening they engage3d in a little chit chat and she stopped and said to him “promise me that youll come as agreed”…he looked her straight in the eye. hugged her and said “i promise”. they had reached the bus stop and it was time for him to go. she had never been good at goodbyes and so as soon as he boarded she crossed the road and walked back home; never turning to look at him….she could as well wait..he had promised that he was going to come back the next day.

she was smiling and saying hi to the little kids who knew her that she met along her way…she was jolly..she couldn’t wait to spend the whole weekend with him. well, most of us would think bla bla bla they stayed indoors, had endless sex, bought a bottle of 20-year-old whisky and slept the weekend away..but that was contrary to what they did….they did all sorts of things…their’s was a fun kind of relationship…they would occasionally get that bottle but they never lost sight of life…they went to parks, played intellectual games like chess, discussed history and philosophised to the wisemen quotes, go to new towns and see the people’s lifestyle, go to the dam and sit on their spot and watch the sunset….and when they wanted to get away from it all they would go to their “spots”..haha that’s what i remember her call it…”we have spots where we go and lock ourselves out from the rest of the world and its all about us” and it was beautiful. they had their rough patches and they’d go for hours sometimes even days without seeing each other but they always found a way to walk around it. i mean..isn’t this enviable? in this day and age where most young people know little to nothing about what a relationship entails…they seemed to have it all figured out.

she got home and started to look through her clothes on what she would wear that weekend…he always told her she looked beautiful in whatever she chose to wear but she was always happy to go that extra mile…and as night fell, she couldn’t wait for morning. Morning came..she was up early and ready to host her guest for the weekend….she cleaned up and by the time she was done he had not arrived. “right on time,” she said to herself and she got ready for him. 1400hrs, 1500hrs,1600hrs..he still hadn’t arrived…could something have happened to him? but she was calm…knowing him, she knew that he probably had to run a few errands as he would be away from home for most part of the weekend…1630hrs..she was getting worried and he was offline but he left him a few messages and laid back waiting for his response.

1700hrs,1800hrs,1900hrs,1930hrs…she checked online if he had replied her messsages or at least even seen them..he hadn’t…and so she put up a movie,curled herself in her douvet and grabbed the computer…decided she’d write something down…writing always gave her an inner sense of peace,calmness and clarity. “i know he cant stand me up…i just hope whatever reason he didn’t come that nothing is wrong at home..or nothing happened to him along the way”she said to herself. but she still couldn’t stop the questions that were running through her mind…why didn’t he come? could something have happened to him on his way? or had it been too much to ask of him to come back the next day? he had never failed to show up and he was always on time…and he had promised…what could have happened??? the only solace she had for that moment in time was the warmth she got from her douvet…”babe, where on earth could you be? :-(”

to be continued….yours truly

the one child

what does it mean to be the best?

You know I actually have an article pending that I was supposed to post yesterday but I really haven’t been able to complete it yet; the reason? You’ll know after I’m through with this one. And I bet you are thinking what is so special about this article that it had to come first? Well I treat all my articles as special in its own way but this one is particularly special cause I got the inspiration to write it from two of my buddies who’ve been on my neck (in a good way) about why I haven’t written in a while and inspiration also came from within..so what does it mean to be the best? What is being the best.

I was reading another bloggers article; a young mother who wrote about that morning when she had to take her young son to his first football tourney and I can remember her say that that morning her son was up particularly early and he was up and about the house making sure that his mom didn’t forget his uniform and his water bottle and when they finally got into the car, he asked her “mom what if we don’t win today? What if I panic and miss the ball when it is passed to me?” and his mom turned to him held him by the cheek and said “you are gonna do just fine honey.” The boy’s team lost and sure enough he went home feeling bad about himself and the mom was left with one question in her mind; why do we bring competition to children? Why can’t we just let kids be kids and have fun doing what they love? I read that article about a month ago when I was starting my blog and it was not till yesterday that I finally had the answer…my answer at least.

A new born child is the purest form of human existence; harmless,sinless….it has nothing to expect from anyone not even its own mother cause it doesn’t know the reason for its existence heck! It doesn’t even know that it is alive. But as this baby GROWS it is introduced to a totally different world that is not its mother’s womb or her breasts. It is introduced to family, friends, strangers, schoolmates, workmates, stalkers and finally a companion and then the cycle begins again. What is my point you ask? Well ill put it this way the difference between you and your parents is simple YOU! Your attitude, your choices, your personality…simply put you are the only one who has control of who or what you want to be.

I’ll give you two examples in very different angles. There are two high school graduates who are awaiting their results. Lets say they both get entry points into campus but donot get called into the courses of their choice. One of them uses his parents financial status to buy their way into the top rated courses cause hey he is the son of Mr. so and so and he has to follow in his daddies footsteps. The other one does so too but defies the odds and goes for his passion what he is good at. Life has it that the second graduate will end up more successful than the first and I know you’ll go ahead to ask what exactly is success. Success is being content with what you have at the table; being happy with who you are, what you are, where you are. Here are the reasons he will be more successful. One he’ll be doing something he loves hence he will have a reason to wake up everyday. Two, he’ll be happy with where he works and those are the people who rarely complain at work. Three, he knows who he is and where he wants to be so he knows what he wants in life and cause of the values and traits he has maintained along the way he will find the perfect companion that will compliment him therefore fourth at the end of the day he wont be going back to a house but to a home; to someone who compliments who he is and makes him better.

On the contrary the first graduate will high chances end up with frustrated life. Why? Cause he is living to surpass a mark that his dad reached, he is struggling to reach his dad’s expectations and not to let his father down so his main focus will be to be his father’s best child. His reason to wake up everyday will be that he needs to be better than his dad. What he doesn’t know is that his dad lived his life and he wont be with him always. He guided him through his childhood but he cant guide him through his life. Yes so lets say he ends up better than his dad. Then what?  How many years of his life will he have spent trying to be his dad? How many years will he take to find himself and how many years will he get to enjoy his life?

So what does it mean to be the best? The one child thinks that to be the best is simply to be you. To know what you want, who you are, what you are, where you want to be and important of all to not forget where you are from. The one child thinks that once you have all this figured out then you will automatically get the best and how do we get all this figured out? By learning something new about yourself at least daily. Don’t be afraid to write it down or text it on your notepad in your android phones 😀 that is a step towards a better you…towards a successful you. That young boy had very many options in his school’s extracurricula but he choose football cause he had passion for it and as much as when we are trying to find ourselves we get lost along the way, when you FOCUS you’ll get there..you’ll get what you want and be content with it and that is my perfect definition of being successful and being the best. So today don’t compete against anyone but yourself.

I will not forget to tell you why I did not post that article before this one. It’s because my two buddies have been pushing me to write and to be the best at it cause I love it and I’m taking that step today and I think you should take a step too in what and who you believe in so too my two sweethearts thank you <3.

Till next time stay safe and dare to be your best. Now I’m getting back to playing NFS and make my best time score 😀 😉

Quote: “The only way you can be the best at anything is to be the best you can be.” Susan Beth Pfeffer

With love

The one child, xoxo

In the Beginning…

Don’t let the name of the title fool you :D…I will not be writing about the Bible…at least not today. I had intended to name this article “LIFE” but there is so much I can say about life I’m not sure an article is enough.
I got the inspiration for this article from an hour long conversation I had with a friend of mine who I met on my way home yesterday evening. After exchange of greetings and a little catch up he bombarded me saying that it was his birthday. The reason I use the word bombarded is I prefer having such dates on my calendar for my friends and I prepare something special in advance for them. I said a happy birthday and went ahead to ask him why he hadn’t told me in advance of his special day; his response “birthdays are for girls :)” and believe me when I say the smile on his face was biiig and he even afforded a giggle. For those who know me I gave him this look that sent a message that he should retract that statement fast unless he was up for a debate. Retract he did but what he said was still debatable..”Its not a big deal,” he said “its just a day like any other.” Excuse me?!!
I find it very ironical that when there is an upcoming concert or event people go out of their way to make their hair, buy an outfit just for the event, some even take loans or hire cars just to attend the event in style BUT some of these same people donot celebrate the day that led to their existence :o. I mean if we were not born we would have no idea of all these parties and fashion and “mottos” eg YOLO.
I also find it very ironical that we celebrate halloween(not sure I spelt it right), independence day,our first kiss, how long we’ve been celibate, and even celebrity birthdays but we don’t celebrate our own! Hey even Jesus Christ celebrates his birthday and He is Immortal..you, a mere mortal who’s life is limited doesnot?!
The reason as to why most of us have misplaced priorities is because we donot know what we want in this life and how can we know what we want when we don’t know the reason of our mere existence? Don’t get me wrong, I’m not against partying and all..I’m just against people not knowing why they are alive..people not knowing the reasons they need to be alive. Ask yourself “what am I living for?” While I’m alive what do I want to achieve? It doesn’t have to be anything to do with academics. Education is important people. But not everyone is blessed in that direction. Some of us are good at art, sports, research..we are all good at something and so I think that we have one day in a year for a reason and everybody ought to celebrate it.
Most young people’s defintion of celebrating their birthdays is having a super event with a dress code and letting others know and posting photos on social media…darn it! Social media is taking over people’s creativity and personality. My definition of celebrating is taking some time off and having some personal space for some self love..you know..thinking about how blessed you are to be alive, how far you have come since you were a child, how far you’d like to go, what you can do to empower yourself, how to be a better you than you were the previous year..I mean you can treat yourself to a litre of icecream or a movie…just take sometime to yourself and enjoy your own company, then you can go party with family and friends later on. A little self love never killed nobody..think about it you were born alone and you’ll die alone..yes that’s the truth so why can’t you spend a little time alone on that one day and not feel bored?
I am looking foward to my birthday(its soo far :() cause I know its the one day in a year when I can have me time with no pressure of any kind and celebrate myself.
Well, as for my friend he hit me up today and told me he did some good meditation after our conversation and he felt good doing something new and If you try it I bet you’ll feel good about yourself too.
Till next time its been real

With ❤ the one child
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